Get a copy of Divorce Remedy, there are plenty of good tips.
He will undoubtedly complain that there are things he does not like about you. Listen. Say two words. "I understand." Nothing else.
Don't tell him you love him...he already knows that.
I got a book that has helped me tremendously. It is called The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie O'Martian. It comes with a workbook, and teaches prayer specifically for your sitch. If you have any faith in God, get it, and have a Bible and notebook handy. I have been working through this one for a few weeks, and every prayer has been answered. It has given me the inner peace that I have been searching for my entire life, and has really helped w/ my H.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
That is okay. Trust me he will notice. There is the saying "if you love something set it free. if it comes back it is yours. if it doesn't it was never yours to begin with." He is already yours, through your bonds of marriage. Therefore, you just need to let him go through whatever it is he is going to go through, and realize that it does not have anything to do with you. But the outcome may potentially have EVERYTHING to do with how you handle this. You will act in ways that will feel utterly wrong. But trust me, they work.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
read it twice thought it was working... wrong, i pray for him every day all day long! Religion is a big reason why we started going in diff directions, I was growing he didnt want to
he frst time this was brought up was when I returnede home from mission work in costa rica a year ago, i just returned from nicaragua and agian the same exact thing happened right when I got home, he is so proud of me feels we have grown so far apart because of my love for the Lord
Remember the part where it states that God is working to teach him something? You cannot do it, it is not your job, but God's. You have to let God do his work. I don't just pray for H, I pray for God to give me the strength to know what I am doing is right.
My pastor said a few weeks ago, we are always surrounded by noise, radio, tv, traffic, doesn't matter. If you really want to hear the voice of God, sit in silence and pray. What message you get in your head is what He wants you to do.
I did this. One day, a few weeks ago, I was getting ready to send an infamous, weepy email to my H. Instead of sending it, I left my office, went to my car, and asked God what He wanted me to do. The words came to my head. "Stop. Just wait." I did. Deleted the email, and went back to work.
Twenty minutes later my H called. It wasn't anything major, but I thank God every day I did not send that email. The differences in the progress we have made has been very small since then, but we are progressing.
I have to run my D12 to my XH's really quick, will be back in 20. In the meantime, try that. Shut everything off. Relax. Breath deep. Pray, meditate, and don't concentrate, but listen.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
RH - I just read through your posts and wanted to lend you support.
Listen to Lola. She's a pro at this and is making immense progress in her sitch (even though she thinks it's really small). Love ya Lola!
So I hear you saying that your H is proud of you in some ways for the growth you have had in your R with Christ but that he doesn't want to grow as well. Is that correct? Did he actually say he has no desire to develop his walk or is this your assumption because of his lack of action?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
