sorry forgot to say, I didn't intend telling son about this until we returned from holiday, unfortunately he was in my email account whilst we were away and saw it, I have to say he was very calm and he said I know dad as sent you an email, I sat and talked to him about it and his response was good, I told him at the end of the day he is still his dad, and if he wants a relationship with him that is fine with me, I told him it was completely up to him how he handles this and I am not getting involved but the one thing I did ask was for him to not let dad hurt him again. son said that once dad as handed his money over he will think about contacting him, but it must be on his terms and no way at all does he want to have anything to do with his new wifey, son said that was the problem before dad was always tricking him into seeing and being with her, well lets just hope dad has learned his lesson.
Mandy,
I can't remember if I've posted to you before, but I've followed your story for a while.
It is a very good idea to leave it up to your Son whether he wants to contact his dad or not. I know you are very worried that Son will get hurt again, but be careful that you don't discourage your Son or put him on a guilt trip about it if he does want to contact his dad. Don't worry that he will end up having a great relationship with his dad and ignore you. That will never happen. Even if Son does make some kind of relationship with his dad, he will never forget the past, and he will always know what a great mom you are and how you are ALWAYS there for him, not just when it's convenient.
Could your son send his dad an email? Maybe say something like, "Dad, got your message. I hope you are sincere, but please understand that I have a hard time believing what you say. Please give me and mom the money in my account as we have asked, and that will go a long way toward helping me believe you are sincere. Thanks, Son."
Your x's reply might at least give you an idea of whether or not he is being sincere in wanting to have a relationship with Son, or if he is just being manipulative to try to convince Son to forget about the money.
I don't know if it's a good idea or not, maybe someone else has an opinion?
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(
