frank...you will always love your W...in some way...in some different plane. Throughout time, there will probably be a small corner in your heart, reserved for her, always there.

It cannot be erased.

We learn to pack up our emotional life with them, like the wedding photos, and we box them up and put them away. There is no need to throw them out in the trash. They are part of our life...part of our history...part of our journey. They make up the threads of the life we wove together.

We learn.

We grow.

There will be more days ahead of you..and me...that are replete with pain, tears and loneliness. Still, that is life...and we move forward. The challenge, right now, despite the way that our spouse's have treated us...is to rise above it and treat them with respect..while maintaining ours. As bworl said, THEY chose to depart, not us.

So, frank, rise above. Go back to frank...strong, positive, upbeat. Remember the PDF..perhaps they ARE doing us a favor.

Strength and honor.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;