Phil there will come a point where you will stop worrying about the one-upmanship you're dealing with in regards to your wife. It still seems it's tit for tat, and hopefully that will one day change (the sooner the better for your children)
In one breath you say you want and have your kids most of the time, then you say you don't want them all week with the responsibility of school, etc.
My advice to you is that you HAVE to be there for your kids. You HAVE to show them stability, however that happens. If they would be better off (sleep, etc.) to be with you during the week and go to school from your house, do it. As a parent you will sacrifice for your children. You know this.
I think Bworl has given you some excellent advice and glad you're hearing him.
I agree about going dark on her. It's fruitless for both of you.
You can't show her you're a different person if you're beating her with the bible so to speak.
And a parting thought for you - let's say this thing does end in divorce. You still have to deal with her. Forever. Gotta lose the anger.
The part about praying life into your marriage - from Amy earlier on before you jumped her case.... I remember back during my separation, I was told to pray. Pray for a verse. Open my bible and read. Good luck Phil
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
