How I wish they had a little bowing smiley.....because truly I bow before you. You are amazing.
I can't wait for that moment when your H actually realises quite how badly he shot himself in the foot and what a fool he is....I would pay good money to be there to see that moment....because it WILL happen.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I can't wait for that moment when your H actually realises quite how badly he shot himself in the foot and what a fool he is....I would pay good money to be there to see that moment....because it WILL happen.
Sadly, I've been there for that moment of revelation from my X and it still doesn't make things better. I just kept telling him that I'm going to be fine and things happen for a reason. As he said himself....at least you did all you could. I'm the one that did everything wrong and I have no one to blame but myself and I never tried to make things work....duh, where the hell were you when I tried to tell you that. The icing on the cake was when he said that he should have listened to me when I told him that he was going to regret all this in 5 years.....he said, uh, it only took a year and I regret it all. Nice, glad to see he completely destroyed our marriage before he came to this conclusion.
I think lwb's H will come to the same reality as mine, but just like me she is going to hang her head high and deal with the life she's been given. She is going to be fine....okay, no...she's going to be great and he will look back on this and regret it too....mark my words.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Beautiful job on setting your boundaries, so matter of fact without blame. Going on your own to file for divorce had to be upsetting especially when this whole she-bang wasn't your idea. How did you feel after that?
saffie, thank you. I know everyone always says to each other that we can't wait to see him/her regret their choices. But I feel like Hope, its just truly sad to see it happening after its been too long. But thank you for keeping up with me, and bowing down. No need to bow, my friend.
gForce, thank you.
Hope, thanks for lunch the other day. You looked SO pretty (you guys, Hope is way gorgeous), and of course I loved catching up with you. Maybe we can go out on the town before you leave!
Gypsy,
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How did you feel after that?
I can't really pinpoint how I felt. I know I felt anger because H was too wimpy/lazy to come and do it with me. But on the other hand, it was much easier with him not there. I am sad, and have been thinking about our future with the kids together (not being able to truly share their joys/heartaches throughout their lives, etc). But all in all, I was better than I thought.
H has been wanting sex all week, and I have turned him down repeatedly. He got very angry today, very angry. I just let it wash off me on the outside, but on the inside it still affects me a bit. Not as much, but a little. He wants parts of me (sex, my friendship), but not everything. I told him he can't have me and other people, can't have me and his new life. Told him the next time I am intimate it will be someone committed to me.
I am sad, and have been thinking about our future with the kids together (not being able to truly share their joys/heartaches throughout their lives, etc). But all in all, I was better than I thought
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This was me is the part that sucks the most! There have been so many times when I should have been able to call the only other person that would care as much as I do about my kids accomplishments. I have gotten so far as to pick up the phone, but then it all comes back to me and I remember that that person is gone. Hopefully it will be somewhat different for you and your husband will want to be a part of their lives, but you're right, the dynamic is forever changed!
Hope, thanks for lunch the other day. You looked SO pretty (you guys, Hope is way gorgeous), and of course I loved catching up with you. Maybe we can go out on the town before you leave!
You are too sweet :-) I had a great time at lunch too and we'll have to do it again soon.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
