H has organised a birthday party for MIL to which he has invitied D13 (D18 couldn't go she is already at a party in London with her BF). Now you might think so what there is nothing different about that.
Well actually there is. You see MILs bday is 23 Dec! Both my girls have queried why then is H having a party for her on Aug 31st? His response: MIL has never really had proper presents or a party for her bday with it being so close to Christmas. Now if he were doing this for one of our children I would think this was a very kind and noble gesture but this woman is nearly 73yrs old.
D13 asked if she could take a friend and was told no as there wouldn't be room as there are already 12-13 people going. Interestingly if D18 had been able to go her BF was invited. So there we have two places that should have been filled. Also S16 won't be there as he will be at work and so I assume that means his GF will also not be there. So there we have another 2 places. The only other children there besides D13 will be her cousins who are 6 and 4 and therefore not really any company for her. She knows that BIL and SIL will automatically assume that she will look after my nephews and she doesn't want to do this.
I was under the impression that I was dropping her off at the party but D18 said that H is under the impression that he is picking her up from here. That in itself will be interesting. I intend to stay in my bedroom studying if he does turn up and then hopefully that way he will see that I do not want to argue with him anymore. I'm more concerned with how D13 is going to get home as I have been invited out to dinner by one of my girlfriends and so won't be home.
As I said an interesting day.
On Friday I sent H an email about an acquaintance of S16s. This is the boy he was with when he got arrested last year. This boy had been sent to a different part of the country to live with relatives (which was a huge relief for me) but has now been allowed to return home. I only found this out when I had tea with my neighbour on Friday. She was concerned b/c her son (who is 17 and just passed his driving test) and my son had apparently gone camping overnight last Sunday (i didn't know anything about this) and when they returned her son told her that this third boy had also joined them. They were not pleased as they too have reasons not to like and trust this boy. Anyway my email was just to pass this information onto H (as I suspect my S16 has also been economical with the truth). I always attach read receipts to my emails now as H never replies. As expected I got a read receipt but no message, no thank you, no yes I already knew thank you. NOTHING. Is it any wonder that our S16 feels caught up in all of this?
D18 came out with a VERY interesting fact about OW yesterday. Apparently she calls MIL 'Mum'. I have never done this as I wasn't comfortable with it (my SIL doesn't call her mum either). So it is no wonder that MIL gives off the impression that OW is the best thing since sliced bread. Talk about the subtleties of manipulation. Please don't let anyone convince you that OW are the innocent party they are not. They know exactly what they are doing and how to achieve thier objectives.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
