You're allowed to have a life. I think he loves you and is just a little shocked to see the 180 you have done in the last couple of days. Well done, Jen! Well done!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Everyone who knows the sich tells me that XH is confused and is shocked that I've been making new friends. Sheet it's what he said should do. But I guess on his schedule
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I know...its strange how when you start doing what they are telling you to do, they don't seem to like it! It's like, yes I wanted her to get a life, but wait a minute, her life is w/o me?0
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I am off to hit the hay. Catch up w/ you tomorrow...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Hey Jen, is your H a Scorpio?? They can be VERY possessive, jealous and brooding (thats the negative side of the sign).. and scorpios can hold onto things emotionally for a long time, they bury it deep and remember past hurts, they find it hard to let go of them. I'm not surprised that he says he bears grudges! If he is like this, I am not sure what you can do? Isnt there something in the DB books that say, just say to them, if I have upset/hurt you it wasnt intentional, and then leave it at that?
I have sent you a message on FB !
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Hi Ali! He is Scorpio and he fits the dscription of negative and positive traits to a T. I figure I'll just leave him for a while and let him work through his issues. There's nothing I can do.
Today I got upset with him because he put D in the front seat of the car while she should be in the backseat. In the backseat was her bike but also some newspapers and his bag of books which could have easily been moved aside for her. I don't get him at all and I guess I shouldn't expect to.
I'm seriously fed up with his attitude.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
He came by to pick up one of the debit cards and he started getting upset because 2 days ago I asked his Dad to send me the clothes D had there. I told his Dad is was so could see if anything was missing or lost. His Mom apparently got upset with that and didn't understand why if she has bought D clothes why all of it should be here. I had told his dad I wanted to do an inventory of sorts and I'd send more clothes back. XH was telling me that he had to deal with his Moms sh!t AND my sh!t. I couldn't get a word in edgewise.
Then he started in about Thursday night. He told me I had said I'd be back at 8 when I know for a fact I told him I was going out around 8. He was upset because I didn't call Thursday to clarify. I was clear so why should I have had to clarify. He said that I call for dumb stuff but I couldn't have called him Thursday. I asked him why he didn't call me to clarify.
This is dumb. I'm so sick of it. Everytime I think I'm doing the right thing I get slapped in the face.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
