Then she laughs. She probally thinks. Look at what I did to him now.
Bingo. She looks for reasons to piss you off. Then you go off and (in her mind) validate her reasons for leaving. Change the dynamic, don't give her anything to feed off of. Overall you are right, she shouldn't have left the M. But you are going about this wrong. Act as Christ would act. Christ wouldn't react the way you do. You go off the charts Phil, you got to chill out. I realize that this is difficult, but accusations(true or untrue), insults, and whatever else is going on over there in Lost Phil land isn't working. Focus completely on your R with Christ, then yourself and your children. Sacrifice your feelings to God. Let her go man, if you don't it doesn't change. You are me 3 1/2 years ago Phil. I held that resentment and unforgivness and it pushed her further away. I never snapped on her the way you do, but the resentment came through. Letting go and forgiving is the best thing you can do for yourself and for thos kids. And unless you do, your chances of this all working out decrease daily. Look man, people have been through worse and had it work out, but I think it depends more on the left behind..... she isn't going to change unless you do. I guess to sum it up, one of the very few things in the DB books I agree with, is the statement if what you are doing doesn't work, then change it. Is what you have been doing working....for anyone?
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
