"The thing is, we can still be above this by having compassion."
Frank,
What are you saying when you say "we can still be above this?" This whatz? This poor treatment by our spouse?
I guess I'm confused. If love is conditional, then what would be unconditional grace and/or complassion. If my husband shuts me off, cuts me down, blames me for his rudeness everytime I speak to him on the telephone, avoids me, etc. etc., yet says he doesn't know if he wants to see me, why do I still feel so much pain?
Aren't I feeling the hurt because I love him? Aren't I trying to give him unconditional compassion by offering to give him the house after the divorce, which is what he wants? I'm at a loss as to what to do. He says he doesn't have to call me because I call him, yet I go for days and he does not call me.
As for your wife, I don't know that it hurt her to write the check. She may have done it out of unconditional compassion.
