So it has been a long couple of weeks. A lot has happened and a lot of things will be happening in the near future.
Tawny still has not spoken with her mom. It will be 2 weeks tomorrow. She is doing better, she has been making a considerable effort to help out around the house and make things better for us. She referred to us as roommates the other day, which I found a bit funny.
I filed for sole custody of tawny and the papers should be served this coming week sometime. I also filed a response saying that I object to Carrie moving to Mississippi under grounds that it will be detrimental to Ross.
I also filed a request for mediation to end this thing and try and get some resolution. I wrote an email to Carrie's lawyer basically telling him to quit milking her for money and that if he costs me anymore money in responses to ridiculous offers made by him and my wife that I will file a civil suit against him for my lawyers fees.
Ross came to me and told me that Carrie told him that she was dating the OM. He said that she told him they have been dating for 2 months. He said that he didnt believe her and that he thought it was much longer. He asked me if OM and I aren't friends because they were dating before that. I asked him if he understood what that meant and he said yes. He started crying and was upset. I told Ross that sometimes people make mistakes and that his mom and OM made one as well.
He wanted to know if OM is the reason that Mom and I are getting divorced. I told him that what happened with mom and OM was one of reason but that there were other reasons as well. I told him that it was ok to be allright with OM and that I would not ever be angry or upset that he is. He asked me if I am still friends with OM and I told him that OM and I are not friends anymore.
I hate that she lied to him, but then again I guess it would be hard to actually tell him the truth of what had happened. I am not quite sure why she even fealt the need to tell him at all right now that she is dating. He said he didn't ask her, so why even tell him right now? Since she chose to tell him, I will not allow her to lie about what that relationship is. She needs to own up to it. She is just so damn lost.
Yesterday was our 16th anniversary. I didn't really think much about it, I was very busy at work thank goodness. Last night my girlfriend came over and cooked me dinner and just hung out for the night. Tawny was supposed to stay at a friends house but when she found out Jaqueline would be over at the house she surprised us by coming home after the movie. She has wanted to meet her since she got home from Colorado.
It was pretty awkward, both Tawny and Jackie were very nervous with each other. Both of them were pretty much red faced and didn't say much. I have to admit it was a little difficult for me as well. I really didn't know what to say or do. They said hi to each other and then Tawny and her 2 friends went up to her room. Jackie made them a plate of Papoosas (A traditional dish of El Salvador) and sent me upstairs with it.
I guess the food lightened the mood because Tawny and the girls came downstairs and spent some time just hanging out with us. Another hurdle overcome I guess.
Overall I think I am doing ok. I still get frustrated somewhat, and I do have moments where I find myself drifting off and thinking about all this stuff with Tawny and her mom. Then I just snap myself out of it and move on with my day. I guess I just want all this legal crap to get over so I can move on completely and have my life back. It will happen someday......
