Groundhog Day WAW#15

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I have to ask you what you are tying to achieve? If you are looking to end up in a bitter divorce while destroying your kids, you are doing an excellent job. If you are looking to to reconcile with your W, you are blowing it badly.

You keep telling her that she won't stop the madness but I see at least as much madness coming from you. Do you not see that she is reacting to you? You must MUST get yourself under control. If you can't, go get some help becuase you are way out of control.

Stop calling her. Stop texting her. Stop blaming her. Healing your marriage must start with you, not with her.

Here is something that use to work for me. Every time I use to be over run with emotion and have the urge to tell my W about all the things that she was doing wrong, I would write an email to her but I would NEVER send it. I also have a 25 page word document that I would use for the same purpose. Writing it down would give me the time I needed to calm down and regain my composure. It also allowed me to get it off my chest without actually telling her.

You must deal with you before you can ever deal with her.