Hey Jen, just hang in there. He's probably just upset that you are getting a life...DAM!!!! He'll be over it in a few days...just stay calm and don't yell or get sarcastic...just let if flowwww.
Thanks Sep! I'm not very upset about his behaviour it's just not nice. You know I don't think he's upset because I went out. I'm beginning to think that he understood I'd be home earlier. I remember telling him I'd be back around 10 or 10:30. I guess it really doesn't matter because for whatever reason he thinks he's right. I can't and won't argue with that.
I'm not getting very far with this. We were doing pretty good in stage 2 and now in the past 10 days we've gotten into a black hole. I feel stuck.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Oh Jen don't feel stuck, like it's been said so many times on here before..this is a roller coaster ride we are on and some days are going to be and others down..right now you were going down and in a few days you will be heading right back up again.
It hurts to feel stuck even for a day or two but unfortunatly it's part of this journey that will hopefully take us back into the M that we want.
I must say that it does sound like a great improvement that you have concluded not to argue his point with him. I sounds like in the past you would have made sure your point was heard no matter what but now you have learned not to follow the "cheeseless path" and decided it's just not worth it. Woo Hoo!!
H holding a grudge because he cant forgive himself. Forgive him and show him. I bet he was never shown forgiveness as a kid. He's projecting onto you. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Hey Jen, it is okay. Coach is right, he is having a hard time forgiving himself because he knows he was wrong. And you know that the WAS's don't like to feel like any of this is their fault, so they have to project it onto us. Patience is the key, and given enough time, he will think about your lack of response, and realize that you really did nothing wrong!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
So nothing from XH until tonight at 9 when I needed to know if he was picking up D tomorrow. he responded yes but when I asked at what time it took him 30 minutes to tell me 9am...still a tad POed I guess lol
D and I went to the mall to buy ponytail holders because she looses them constantly. Then we went to the drug store. We later went to Burger King for dinner and she's sleeping soundly.
Tomorrow I'm going to get my hair cut and then off to the Hash in the afternoon. This time I'm not even going to bother to tell him what time I'll be home. What difference does it make anyways since he either doesn't listen or forgets when I do tell him.
Let him wonder because I'm tired of being an open book.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
You don't have to answer to him. I mean, seriously, he is not answering to you. It's not a matter of whether you love him or he loves you, but respect works both ways. You have given a ton, now its time he gives back.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
