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Hey (((ITH))), I am doing okay. I just woke up so I am still waiting for the caffeine to kick in!!! How are you?


Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..

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Hey,

It's about 6 PM here, so am about ready for the wine, doing pretty well :).

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Oh wow!!! I didn't realize the time difference was that huge! But I am glad you are doing well!!


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Yes I'm in Poland, so 9 hours difference from Pacific time...

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Okay so I did it...
H called me this morning about our car insurance, and we got to chitchatting. I brought up the subject by telling him I thought it was really funny that our old instructor was playing at our party. He said they are not cheap, he has seen them play many years ago when they first met, before he met me, and they are very good. So I took the opportunity to invite him to the party, and he said he thought he might be on call, but he would check, and if he had time he would stop in. I told him no pressure, just if he didn't have other plans.

Now I don't really expect him to actually come, but it was great because it was the first time in a while that he didn't say no outright!!! Then we proceeded to have a very nice conversation for about 1/2 hour, and when I made the move to get off the phone, he kept talking a bit.

It was a great conversation, and I am really glad I got to talk to him! What do you think?


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(((Lola)))

I am so happy for you!!!! That sounds like a fantastic convo with H!! Sounds like little by little he is inching his way to being more and more confortable around you again. I really hope that he is able to go to the party. \:D


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(((((Lola)))))

I think that you are doing a pretty good job of things and that you should congratulate yourself \:\)

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It was actually kind of cool. I have a friend that says things just tend to fall into place when they are supposed to. I think she is really right. I don't know what will come of all of this, and whether or not he will even show up, but I really liked the fact that he did not say definitive no. I also know that working where he does, he drives past my office, so if he does that on Friday and sees that the party stuff is going up out in the parking lot, he will be reminded. But I will not say anything again, because it has to be his decision, and I think that by leaving it up to him, inviting but with no pressure just stop by if you can, really left a good feeling.


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That's excellent Lola. Even if he doesn't show up, you know that he didn't feel pressured or threatened when you asked him. That's an accomplishment in itself. It means that things are progressing.


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Hi Lola! Great news that you guys had such a good and long convo. I can see that you're moving into more of a friendship already. I think your friend is right that things do fall into place when they're supossed to. He knows the party invite is out there and he'll drop by if he can. I'm willing to bet he will pop in \:\) Hope it but don't expect it and you will have a wonderful time either way.


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