Trixi and His Highness

[NikB]

CW or anyone looking for similar answers - I posted on your thread.

Trixi - hope you are having a great weekend!!

[Trixi]

Thanks Nik

And Nik, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to post to me, over and over, even though I sometimes won't actually *do* what you suggest. You have a huge heart. You post to SOOO many people and I want to tell you that I think you're totally awesome!

[Trixi]

Thanks Nik

And Nik, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to post to me, over and over, even though I sometimes won't actually *do* what you suggest. You have a huge heart. You post to SOOO many people and I want to tell you that I think you're totally awesome!

[Trixi]

Thanks Nik

And Nik, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to post to me, over and over, even though I sometimes won't actually *do* what you suggest. You have a huge heart. You post to SOOO many people and I want to tell you that I think you're totally awesome!

[NikB]

Awww thank you - and, you're welcome!

It's ok.. you get lots of differing advice and you just have to try it on and see what "fits" and what works for you.

I feel like I should be out GAL today instead of so much posting!! But a lazy day and trying to help others is good sometimes, too.

[Changed Woman]

I second what Trixi had to say...I have been struggling a bit on this website as I follow the sitchs of several people, but there isn't really anyone I've had a true dialogue with...you guys are great! THANKS!

[Changed Woman]

I second what Trixi had to say...I have been struggling a bit on this website as I follow the sitchs of several people, but there isn't really anyone I've had a true dialogue with...you guys are great! THANKS!

[NikB]

Hey Trixi - where are ya?? Been thinking of you and I hope things are going well.

[Trixi]

Heya-
well, last night I was at a Dare to be Fun and Crazy Women's meetup group and tonight was a Cooking and Socializing meetup. I had a good time at both; pretty much have my socializing done for the week. I am reading a book called The Introvert Advantage (again) and I just feel so...vindicated. I simply get tired from a lot of socializing. It's how an introvert is wired. It's not 'bad' it just 'is'.

Anyway--met some really great people. And I might even host the Cooking meetup next month..we'll see.

On the H and I front- blech. He couldn't come over Wednesday because Tuesday night he was puking his guts out and he left work early on Wed to try to finish recuperating.
Instead he came over Thursday. I made a really nice salmon dinner; we watched TV and at 10pm he left. This is probably the second time in 8 months he has ever come over and then left without...well, you know, without. If it wasn't the second time in 8 months, I probably wouldn't think anything of it, but it is SO out of the ordinary, it is hard NOT to make a mental note. Alright, he was having some sort of gastro-intestinial 'issue' that was rather, erm, pungent, but he has never let that stop him before. There seemed to be some distance. Same thing on the previous Sunday to Monday when I saw him.

I have been SO sad lately. Cry cry cry. Cried today, cried last night; I don't know what the hell happened from Costa rica to today, but I feel like I 'blew it' somehow.

Currently he is jamming to get a demo tape burned to submit to a contest. The drummer can't seem to get the timing right and the due date is fast approaching so they are busting their butts to get things down pat and recorded.

He is supposed to come over tomorrow night for dinner.

I am having a VERY hard time. One part of me wants to hang on and keep trying and stand for the marriage. The other part of me says "WTF are we all doing?!? Obviously, the WAS doesn't think we are "the one", just isn't "into us" and doesn't want to try. WHY are we (LBS) busting our a$$es to try to get them back?!"

ugh

heh- but thanks for asking how I am doing

[NikB]

(((Trixi)))

I'm glad to hear you went to those meetups! Seems out of character for you and I'm excited to see you trying something new.

I've never liked the whole "standing" concept, other than the time when I was desparate and grasping at anything. Sounds like you're getting to where I ended up, with that.

I don't think you "blew" anything exactly, I just think you're wayyyy too available and not allowing him to "pursue" you at all. I truly think playing hard to get would be at least worth TRYING in your sitch. You can't really pursue someone who's already chasing you.