Next hurdle: D17's birthday. I would love to have a family birthday party for her. We haven't all been together since MIL died in March. It would be good for D17 to feel the support from her uncles and aunt....but the local relatives are all on exH's side of the family. Can I plan a dinner and include exH, but NOT his GF?
Wow, that's a toughie. Okay here's my suggestion, have the party at your house and you can invite or not invite anyone you would like. Maybe you could email exH and say, "I realize we are divorced and you can date anyone that you want, but I'm still not quite used to the idea of being around "her". Notice that the invitation has only your name on it. I would appreciate you not bringing the "skank" (Of course you might use a better name than the one I have chosen for her) to DD's b-day party. It is her day and I want it to be special for her and the family. I just don't want there to be any tension on her day. I want everyone to be comfortable especially DD."
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
