I think that would have been an incredibly tough one for ANYONE posting on here.
I can't think of many who would have turned away a spouse that they love who pleaded, complete with tears, for the opportunity to come over and do some cleaning to make the kids happy with them.
So don't be too hard on yourself.
You'll get stronger as this goes on.
That being said, all your friends here are right. Your wife NEEDS DESPERATELY to feel the disconnect down to her core. Find a way to at least slowly but surely close the door for now.
Bill, I think you called it best. She does need to feel the disconnect down to her core. She needs to feel the same hurt WE are feeling.
She feels guilty that her actions have caused even MORE stuff to be heaped on me. That doesn't mean she misses me, or that she would ever want to come back. It's just guilt and feeling like an outsider.
I'm letting her go, sometimes slowly, sometimes quickly. I still miss her. I wonder when that will stop?
