Is it just sex....or more?????

[Trixi]

My H said something similar at the end of last year.
Brief synopsis-
*he moved out Aug 3rd, 2007.
*we went to a family friend wedding Aug 21st and he was all over me. Found out that same weekend that he had already been on some dates, but that I "wasn't that easy to replace."
*we were physically exclusive, but it was "ok" to see other platonically (according to him)
*By October things had gone really down hill and we quit 'seeing' eachother
*Mid-December'ish he said that we should file for D in January. And in fact, suggested we do it "online" so that it would be quicker and cheaper.
*January 08, he starts wanting to see me again
*March 08, he announces we are exclusively dating and he is "no longer looking for someone else"

When he made that "announcement" he also told me he had slept with two other girls. They were "half my age" but nowhere as "good" as me. He had thought he wanted that (some hot, young thing) but it turned out they couldn't compare to me. *sigh*

My point--what he said is just what he said today. GAL, invest in yourself. Remember Michelle says believe none of what they say, and half of what you see.

My H and I are still "dating" right now; but I am getting close to pulling the plug. I think the reason my H was all hot and bothered to get a D was because he wanted to go and have sex and not feel "bad" about it because, after all, in his mind, we were practically divorced.

One weird thing about my H is that even when he was anxious to get going on a D, he said that "nothing is forever, except true love" and "who knows, we could end up together in couple years." He did say at a couple different points that he 'didn't see us working out' right before the bigger announcement of wanting to file in January.

SallyM had a VERY interesting story. Her H had an OW. Chased her (Sally) around for sex a couple times while they were separated. SallyM detached and got on with her life. Her H was ready to file, SallyM was sad but detached enough to keep moving forward. Her H came back to her. It looked like it was over, but he came back. Of course, he also could see that she was moving forward because he had found this board and had been reading what she wrote, but in her case, she wasn't trying "tactics" or "stratedgies"-- she was just taking care of herself.

Anywhoo-your H has stuff he needs to work out. You can take this time to work on you; finding out who you are, etc.

((CW))