L/P I am sorry about what happened today. I am praying for you and your wife.. I know how frustrating it is when they won't respond to us as we think they should... because we love them so much we can't imagine life without them or how they could of stopped loving us...I realize that I was not a good wife...
Took for granted the love my husband had for me.....but I did not deserve the infidelity that has occured in our marriage.... But I have learned the hard way... we can not make them fall in love with us again... I have tried to make things happen to make him want his family again and each time I have made a mess of it.
I have begged,pleaded,cried,thoughts of suicide,anything to make him hurt as I have but right now they just DO NOT CARE... You need to let her go... no more screaming at each other in front of the children...can you imagine how they must feel.
Even though they know what is happening, it is breaking their hearts because they love both of you. I know it is hard... you want her to hurt as you hurt.. Be the better parent when this happens and just stop yelling and who knows what else is said and done...
I know you admitted to the marriage breaking up because of drinking and slapping, hitting her and this is going to take time on her part to forgive and forget.. I know you know this in your heart but they must travel this journey alone...I have heard it said in here time and time again to LET GO AND LET GOD...And this is so true.
You know... before my husband's MLC began and he decided he was not in love with me any longer I never did the things I do now and I know by your posts that this is a touchy subject with you but I need to say these things to you, not only to help you with your struggles, but it also helps me... Because back a few months ago I could or would not be where I am today.I pray on my knees, I read the word of God first thing in the morning, that is my time with him.I read and ask him to open my heart and eyes so that I may learn from him, what it is I need to learn.This has become a daily routine for me, He comes first before anything else. And that is what he wants from us. a closer walk with him
But I am telling you the truth, when I handed this over to God totally and completely.. I changed, something in my heart changed I no longer was the wife that was driving my husband as he said "CRAZY" I do have bad days when I will cry uncontrollably Nothing anyone says makes me feel better.I have thoughts that it will NEVER change....but you know what, as soon as I get on my knees and cry out to GOD he gives me this inner peace.
I hope I dont offend you but I am just speaking from my heart. I know you are hurting today because of what happened.but it is going to take time and the harder you try to reason with her, about what she is doing, the damage she is causing... she needs to see a change in you...we must be more Christ like, she will notice the change believe me..
Even though my husband and I no longer live together I know in my heart it will all work out in the end...but in order to be able to bear the pain in our hearts you need to hand it over to God.
When this started for me in Oct. of 07 my christian friends would say to me.. give it over to God.. but I was determined to do it myself I did not want to wait on him I wanted it fixed right now, but it got me nowhere just more heartache.
Please for your own sanity please turn it over to Christ he will change you if you let him and she will see that new you..there will be a peace about you she will wonder where this is coming from...but you will know in your heart that it is Christ living in you and you depending on him for EVERYTHING...
GOD BE WITH YOU and please ... I really care how you are feeling and how much you hurt..I dont know who you are but I felt I needed to respond to you listen to my words O.K. Be Blessed In Jesus Name. I will keep you in my prayers everyday, as I do for all of us in here.
