The Longest Journey, 2

[SDFoundGirl]

No worries, your man cookies are safe. I am just ridiculously busy with the start up of school, and I'm letting your ever-wise words marinate and sink in.

I tend to agree with you, and I think where H and I both need to work is on GAL together. We have always been crazy-independent people, and the things we enjoy doing together are more large scale like adventure and travel. We *haven't* been hiking lately though, and that's something we both want to get back to.

I think letting it go is what I *need* to do, but not sure how to do that yet...I'm working on it. Strangely enough, H and I have been having an extended, sort of funny but really interesting conversation about how men get turned on and want sex. I made the comment to him that he was acting like it had been a long time since we'd DTD, and he responded, "Is that what you think? That my interest is predicated on length of time since we've last ML?" Well, yes, that IS what I thought, and I told him so.

He filled me in on all the things that could possibly happen to put him in the mood. I'm wearing a dress...the wind blows...my hair is falling over my neck in a certain way...he sees an attractive woman in public (which bothered me at first, but he says it's more of a trigger, like yeah, I haves me a hot woman at home, I'd like to do it)...and so on. That was a real eye-opener to me. How do I not know this? Like, I know what to do to get his interest, but I was thinking more about what would prompt him to initiate.

Anyway, it's become a fun little conversation between us, and today I actually caught the moment that went through his head because of the way he looked at me. I had on a well fitting t-shirt, and I saw the little SHAZAM go through his mind. I was on my way to a massage, and he was on his way out the door for an overnight with his buddies for the fantasy football draft, so we couldn't act on it...but I see the potential to have some fun and play around with this concept.

I think we mostly need more play together. *I* am the goofball, free spirit, and H is more self-regulated. The best ML sessions have always been a bit more playful in nature, so this is where I'm going to focus my attention.

Sound good?

SD

PS--I *do* have a fb account...I think I have your email somewhere, so I'll look you up and then you can point me to Jen!