Q&A with the WAS

[HOPEFULinCALI]

Q: Was it a slow process for you to want to R or did it just hit you one day?

It hit me one day. See my answer to the next question.

Q: If fast, did you just wake up and say I want R back and then profess to LBS your feelings?

My H picked a ridiculous fight just so he could tell me he was done. At that moment I snapped out of it and started begging, pleading, crying.

Q: DO you think that the WAS spouce wants to R awhile before they tell LBS but wait to say anything because they are afraid that things will go back to being so awful, like when they left?

There were many occasions when I thought that I should go back but when I would come home or spend time with him nothing had changed. It would remind me of the frustration I experienced, the rejection I felt, and the nights I cried myself to sleep because I felt unwanted and unloved. Who would want to go back to that? So yes, I wanted my relationship back but I was afraid things would never change.