Hey Dom- I have said it before; you are very patient for doing this as long as you have. [disclaimer-I am not in a great frame of mind, so whatever I about to say may be colored by my personal situation-end disclaimer] If you are starting to hate her (like you warned me could happen to me w/my H) why are you choosing to keep yourself in the situation where it might totally kill off any chance for reconciliation? IOW, is it time for you to set some boundaries? If 'love is a choice', then wouldn't hate also be a choice? Kinda sounds like a Dobson letter might be in order at this juncture so that you *don't* end up hating her.
Remember Minkerman? And how when he told his wife they were "breaking up" she came around? Maybe your wife is losing respect for you because you ARE putting up with so much. I don't know-just talking out loud.
Let me rephrase all of this: You have some pretty harsh words regarding my H and he doesn't een have a GF (besides me, ha ha). You recognize that even without another person involved, I am accepting crumbs. Okay, now there is your situation-- there IS another person involved and I don't even see you getting crumbs from your wife.
You can only do what you are ready to do, but from the outside looking in, you have given her PLENTY of time and yet she pursues a relationship with someone else and in my opinion, doesn't treat you all that well.
Whatever *you* decide is right for you, I would support you. If you want to keep standing, I understand. If you are ready to give a Dobson letter, I really understand.
Keep us posted!
Oh, and here's a hug (((Dom)))
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
