You are still in touch with your XW? And she thinks about you everyday? How do you feel about that? .
I guess to be honest, there are some mixed emotions. I still run into her friends. Some were aquantinces of mine before we met but not the reason we met. Most of our exchanges are pretty light. The " How you doings" "How are my dogs" things like that.
I wrote her an email a while back about what I was going through with nxgf. Trying to figure out what was wrong with me. Why was I always being the one left behind. What was I doing so wrong that women I loved could love me so much and then didn't want to be with me no more?
Never really got any hard answers like you are abusive or condesending, too head-strong. You know something you could wrap your head around and understand. It was, you were a wonderful man, a great husband but I needed something more or different. She also told me she thought about (after the d) if we could have made it work but her answer was no. She couldn't see the changes being made that she needed. She has also admitted I have made them. HA HA.
Anyway, there must be some truth to it because I ran into her best friend last night and she said, she hasn't seen my ex in a couple of years and that she has really changed. This has happened with a few of her friends. (I got the impression, that it wasn't for the good according to how they felt)
I would have never left my wife. Would have continued to try and be the best husband I could for her. But I did find a stronger love after. Maybe because I didn't think I would put myself in that situation again to be kicked in the ----. It took a little while for me to let my gard down too. Not that I didn't have strong feelings, just limited showing them all the time.
Originally Posted By: HOPEFULinCALI
Nothavingfun, Have you tried inviting her to something non-date like; something you plan on doing regardless of if she accepts. It should also be spontaneous, fun and your tone lighthearted.
I've tried a few times with that. Text her and told her I was taking the cycle out for a ride up in her area and she was more than welcome to join me. Most times she didn't respond. If she did, it just usually said, "have fun". She loved the motorcycle too and hoped that would be the hook.
You know the guys on here see you and cookie, bridge, christa, as white robed wonders. I agree :).
