How much of the farm did you participate in before H left? H doesn't have to come in and be social whenever he comes and goes to do chores. He didn't used to last winter when he came to water the cows. In fact, isn't that just an excuse? why don't you just fill the water tank and he doesn't have to show up at all.
I DO know that a farm or at least my ranch CAN be run without communication from my H. I did just that.
Connect where you can, don't push, don't pursue. If he wants sex, and you want it and can handle the emotional outfall, go ahead. I know many disagree, but others say it was that connection that helped stay together too. Also, you have a new body that he doesn't know much about yet. Be proud of yourself.
Being a homebody isn't a bad thing. I am too. I like that, I am even proud of that. But, you still want to be interesting and attractive to him not necessarily just in a physical way but emotionally and intellectually too. (I hope I spelled that right. haha)
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
