We're never getting back together-How do you cope?

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OE,

Is your wife on anti-depression medication ? I haven't heard you say anything about that yet. ( My wife (seperated) has clinical depression, and though it is not completely cured, the medication has helped immensely. Also, recent studies have shown that exercise is just as effective as medication for depression. However, she may be too depressed to actually exercise, so taking a pill may be the first step to getting control of it.)

In any case, I can feel your pain brother. But your wife can't carry the burden of your pain and sadness right now. If she's depressed she probobly has a decreased capacity to empathise with anyone else's needs/hurts.

I suggest you follow this simple rule of communication when talking with her:

'Small talk, happy talk'

Stay away from heavy stuff. Do what it takes to uplift your own mood. You can't guilt her back to you, but you can draw her back by creating new, happier you, that is not dependent upon her making you happy or sad.

She is emotionally unstable and looking for a calm harbor. Be strong for yourself, whether she notices or not.

You need to Get a Life or gal as they say here.

Also, do not try to draw her out to long on conversations because you want reassurances.

Remember, 'small talk, happy talk'. And end the conversation first. End it politely, but end it first. She needs to wonder about you for a while, and why you are so happy.