Jak, I think socializing more as a couple is a step in the right direction too. I have to be willing to let others see the imperfections in our R. I think the benefits of connection outweigh my concerns of what people may think, when my W is rude to me in public. Aud makes a good point that allowing others to see her behavior for what it is, may in fact have some influence on it, when it isn't validated.
She shared with me that she's having trouble breathing while sleeping, and that she is now concerned about COPD. I asked her what her plans are for quitting smoking. She said she fears that it's too late--there is permanent damage. I told her that it makes sense to quit, and see to what extent the body will heal itself.
She seems to want a guarantee that it's going to be worth her time to quit. I don't understand her ambivalence. I guess ruminating is easier than doing the work. She asked me to buy her some nicotine patches, so we'll see what happens.
CL
Last edited by Concerned_Listener; 08/30/0812:33 PM.
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
