Sorry you have had to feel the pain of OM. It sounds like you are doing a great job detaching though and is probably for the best. I think it is great that she is coming to you for help but at the same time allowing her space. It sounds very TwinDad to me and look how his sitch turned out! Yours may take longer though with the schooling factor.
It's funny how the WAS's find that life isn't all that without us LBS's.
Have you every tried hitting a punch bag at a gym? It might be a good way of getting out that frustration. It's so good that you are not showing her your feelings of frustration and anger. Keep going with that one.
