As colder nights harden, their moonlit delights

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Lisa,
Sorry, didnt mean to start a debate about confronting him! But at some point, and however small you start...perhaps there will come a time when you could ask some tentative questions of him, or do you feel that that is a scary prospect? I was in your sitch in many ways a month or so ago. I kept thinking, I'll wait, I'll keep doing what I'm doing, making it safe for him, hanging out.. he was probs more in contact with me than your H was, ringing every night, seeing me alot at weekends. But, I had no 'hold' on him and as, like your H, he'd never said anything or made me any promises, my prescence in his life was still on a knife edge. So I waited, as I didnt want to frighten him off, or push him away etc... and then what happened? I missed my chance and he is no longer emotionally available to me.

I'm not saying that the sitch with you and your H will fade away, as mine did, but perhaps there is a risk if you leave it another month, year, etc, you may miss the boat altogether. But then, people only do what they want to do, whether you ask them why they are doing it or not, I guess !

How are you feeling about things today, now you've had time to reflect on it?

Al xxx