I just wanted to add to everything that's been said here, that you don't KNOW that there is another woman, even if you strongly suspect this, so I'd act as-if there weren't. It won't help you to dwell on this, hard as it may be.
I like OD's ideas about forwarding emails, fun things, low pressure links, nothing that requires a response.
I don't think it would hurt.
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!