Is he starting to come home?

[NikB]

And back to you, brokenhearted... I hope my post earlier didn't sound negative! I TOTALLY didn't mean it that way but realized in hindsight it might have sounded that way.

I'm trying to help you both see the hopeful signs and avoid the mistakes I made, all at once, and I think it was too much. Sorry!

I DO think that many of the recent signs are positive, and they most definitely mirror the signs I saw from my H before he came home.

You might also look in the Surviving forum for posts from SallyM. She and her H were literally almost D'd (and he either lived with or almost lived with OW), and he decided to come back... and at last report they were very, very happy. It's both more recent than mine and maybe more similar to your story, so she might have some thoughts for you too. And her H posts here once in a great while so maybe you can get the flip-side perspective.

In any case things DO seem VERY positive. I was just afraid of you getting caught up and losing "you" in all this (like I did). Sorry, a bit of projecting there.

I'm so glad to see things turning around for you a bit!