Groundhog Day WAW#15

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Phil, You are clearly going in a million different directions except for the one you need to be going. The people here are showing you the way and you are making excuses as to why it won't work. Everyone wants to feel that their situation is different somehow. I did as well. But it's not different. You need to get a hold of your self, focus and listen. I don't mean to jump down your throat when you are clearly hurting but what you are being told will help you if you stop and listen.

I know it hurts. I know it sucks. I am where you are only I'm a year ahead of you.

Look at it this way. If you want to be attractive to a woman, do you try and guilt her in to being atracted to you? do you tell her that she is hurting you? Do you act like a broken man while insisting that you love her? If a woman did this to you, you would run for the hills.

Your w's goal is not to hurt you. It is to find herself. Unfortunately, you are in the way of that. It probably kills her that she is hurting you but she can't help herself right now.

You MUST be strong. Be confident. Treat her like your W even if she doesn't want to be right now. Validate her because she is not a happy person right now. She is in pain.

Rather than tearing her down when you talk to her. try and make her laugh. Women love a man that can make them laugh.

If she seems to be having a bad day. Ask her about it. Ask her if there is anything you can do to help or if she would like to talk about it.

You will find that she will mirror your attitude. If you act badly, she will act badly. If you act nice, so will she.

Even now she texted me. How is son.

I would say. "He is great. We are having a ball together. Talk to you soon. Phil."

Point is I'm most likely not going to able to save this because I do and keep doing what I'm not suppose to be doing.

I don't mean to be harsh but I hope that you can get a grip on yourself, listen to what you are being offered and take it to heart. Ultimately, you will learn that you have much more control here than you think you have. This is a time for you to grow as much as it is for your W to grow.

What if she really just switched teams?

This caught my attention. I am going through exactly this and so is Missmyfriend. Read our threads to see if your w is doing any of the same things.