NikB - first of all, thank you so much for stopping bye. I really appreciate the insight you have given me here and on your thread as well. I just want to clear up the birthday card goal. In DR, Michelle talks about making goals to mark the steps forward from our WAS. I look at it this way; if I get a card from him (not expecting one at all though) it will definately show me that he has taken another step towards R, if I dont then I need to come up with another goal to watch for as an indicator that we are moving forward. I use my goals as a way to see how far we have come so far; went from NC to getting joking emails, to cookies left behind and compliments to seeking me out for conversations. Because I have made a list of small goals, I can see we are still moving forward and gain strength from that.
Sara, funny you should offer up that advice. I already offered him a glass one night but he had a sinus infection and was on meds so declined. I will wait a couple of weeks then offer again. Another opportunity for a baby step - H says yes to a glass of wine with me.
TOH - glad you liked it!
Despite the steps that I have seen from him, sometimes I do get scared that I am reading too much into things. After hearing NikB's story and a couple of others from the success forum, I started to get a better PMA today. Thank you all for your support.
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
