No, and he hates computers but you just never know.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I thought it may have something to do with "the team"
Hooolllyy ... I bet the Kindys just love you to death. Or they will before the year is over. Those of us that are too old to remember those years love ya too! And the pole, and snack time, and Pirate parties; and did I mention finger painting talents?
You sound strong in your situation and we are all expecting nothing less from you than a rich life made joyful by your own design. Now if only I could be Kindy!
Getting closer and closer to D day. Not really a D, but rather a pay day. Still confused by TJ's actions lately. Making it very easy to finish the D. While talking to Bookpusher, well, actually Bookpusher came up with this explaination. It sorta sounds right on considering TJ and MLC
TJ is getting a bit nasty to make sure he sees this thing through. He does not want to weaken and maybe reconcile again.
Wow. Any thoughts?
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
My ex became very nasty right before the divorce. He wanted me to be nasty also to justify the whole thing.
ML'ers hate to feel weak or show any weakness. This could be the case. Whatever the reason it has nothing to do with being rational. They don't have the ability
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Been thinking of you. I will get in touch with you bright and early.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
had a nice weekend with a friend. Saw Wicked in Pittsburg.
Called D 26 since we had not spoken in a while.. I get bored driving. She told me that TJ has filled them in what is going on with the D. He said that the court hearing we had to reschedule was going to be the final D. Not the case at all. He is taking me to court to not pay temporary support. Something that I have not shared with my daughters. It makes their Dad look rather ugly. I want to keep this away from them. My L specifically told me that the D can not happen at that hearing. He is lying. It was not a misunderstanding. He is highly educated and knows what is going on. He would not risk looking that bad and telling the truth about why we are going to court. The D will come soon enough. What a lost man.
I told D that dad is not telling her the whole truth. I was not going to elaborate and say disparaging things about their dad, so I would not say more.
Why do I still want a life with this man? Is there any hope?
Last edited by Holly06; 09/08/0801:53 AM.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I'm not sure I understand why you would not want to tell D26 what the hearing is really for. Isn't there a way to inform her, without saying disparaging things about TJ? Can't it be a matter-of-fact statement like, "The hearing will not be for the final divorce. It's in regards to support." Period.
I know you are walking a fine line. Just be careful with your daughters. I find my sons become more upset if they are uninformed or left out of the loop. Your girls are all young adults. You may not be able to protect them from the ugliness of divorce. Let her decide for herself why her father may have said what he said to her. Just keep doing what is right and good.
Hang in there.
Spitfire
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
You didn't by any chance pick up any Terrible Towels while you were there, did you? Steelers won--yea!!!!!!
Hope you had a nice little trip.
Poor TJ, he is really in a land of confusion. All we can do is pray for him.
Yes, Holly, there is hope, and only God can do that mighty work of changing TJ.
All things are possible with God.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Good Evening, The divorce is almost done. I may or may not have to be there. It might be a chance to see TJ, but I think I might just avoid that issue. The D issues are all decided, but TJ is still avoiding or delaying paying any money to me. He is really using this last tether to me, and I am not reacting at all. Ignoring it, and letting my L deal with it. I am resigned to the D. I have not had any contact with him at all.. The two times he tried to contact me, he was accusing me of delaying the divorce, and that was not the case at all. So I did not answer or respond. Now I want to throw him a bone. It is time. I want to leave the door open just a bit. I have been very distant and detached. Maybe too much. It would most likely scare TJ from ever contacting me again. Or, not?
I know that true reconciliation must be him crawling over glass to get to me, but the way it is now, I think he is scared. The last voicemail he left me, about 5 ti 6 weeks ago was that we needed to move on...... Any advice out there? I really need some reassurance. It seems like my actions have spoken for me, that I have given up. I want to keep my options open at the very least. Holly
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
