aiming for a new me 11

[glamgirl]

Dar calm down. You don't know who this person is. It could be a roomate. You have to change your approach. This could be why you are not progressing.

He is not going to use good judgement right now. What he sees is I can do whatever I please and nobody is going to tell me what to do.

My h did something similar about a year ago. I did not handle it well at all. Today I am much calmer and just pray for guidance now. It did not bring me and h closer in fact he went further away and confirmed in his mind why he left and couldn't be with me.

You want to bring him home Dar, not push him away.

He is not going to get it right now as to why this would be wrong, but it's not for you to convince him.

[glamgirl]

You are barking up the wrong tree.

[Maya44]

Why should it be okay for him to live with someone of the opposite sex?? Why? If that was the case, I'd have a guy move in with me to help on bills etc. And why should I accept that it's okay for him to lie to me about it for 2 years now???

[Maya44]

You are barking up the wrong tree.

What are you referring to?

[glamgirl]

It's not ok Dar, but he is not going to admit that today. It is not acceptable to lie either, but he can't face telling you the truth so he lies.

Like I said you are jumping to conclusions. You have no idea how long he has lived with this person or what thier R is.

Have you been to his place?

[Maya44]

Nope. He won't even tell me where he lives. THAT'S why D isnt' allowed to go there either. I won't let her go somewhere I don't know she'll be.

[Maya44]

When he moved out, he went to his parent's. About a month later, he moved in with this friend. He's always told me it's a guy named John. Said he invited him to live there since H was always there for guy nights (cards, etc) anyway. So he did. No I'm finding out it's a girl!

[glamgirl]

When I say that Dar you are NOT going to convince him what he is doing is wrong period. He will NOT hear you nor will he listen to you.

You would be best to rest your voice. Does that make sense?

If you do say something then it validates yep that is why Dar and I can't be M. Yep I am right have been right all along.

It does you NO good to say something. It does NOT help your situation. They run further away!

[Maya44]

Okay, thanks. I've calmed down. They're kicking us out now too. Thanks much for your help GG! Enjoy your great weekend and party tomorrow! Such a great idea!

[glamgirl]

Is it a 2bdm place? Where does it say she is anything more than a roommate.