aiming for a new me 11

[Maya44]

So I had to stop at the library after dinner just now to see if anyone is online here. I'm soooo fumed! D told me at dinner that H told her last weekend "Hey, the girl I live with wants to meet you." She said she didn't say anything so he said "do you want to meet her?" I'm literally SICK to my stomach! He's SWORN over and over that he's not with anyone, that he doesn't want a divorce and that we'll be talking so we can start things up again. WTF?!?!?!?! I just want to leave. Get on a plane and get the F out of dodge! I don't even want him to see D anymore until he can get his head out of his ass!

[glamgirl]

Ok Dar is this a person he lives with like a roomate or someone you think he is seeing?

Either way you can't do anything about it. Don't go making assumptions without knowing the facts.

You could always ask your h something like hey h D had said something to me that I would like to talk about with you. Then you can tell him what your D said and say h I would like to know who this person is since she might be around our D.

Know your facts first Dar!

[Maya44]

He won't talk to me that way GG. He really won't. I'll ask him about it and he'll say "Whatever!" or something of that nature. And, maybe I'm being naive, but no, D will not be around any of H's friends or "friends" that I don't know.

[Maya44]

I thought things were improving. I honestly honestly did. I feel like I've been hit with a ton of bricks. I want to go home, curl up and die again.

[glamgirl]

What is your aproach when you try to talk to your h. Are you in the attack mode? If he is saying whatever, how are you saying it.

You could send an e-mail if that would be better. No emotions in the e-mail.

Also what one says and what one does are 2 different. Is it possible he was just saying that but wouldn't really introduce her to D?

[Maya44]

I tm him after venting to a DB friend via tm and told him "D told me the last time she saw you, you told her 'the girl I live with wants to meet you. Do you want to meet her?' I asked her if she heard you right and she swears she heard you. Can you please tell me what was said?"

Sure enough, he replied "WHATEVER!!!!!!!! I will call you in a bit! I was just leaving work!!!!"

He always says he'll call in a bit but never does.

[glamgirl]

Look at your approach Dar. I am sorry but he won't respond to that. You are attacking him.

It's as if you are demanding. Sorry!

[glamgirl]

Ok now this might have been better.

Hi H, I hope you are getting all the projects finished you were working on. BTW D mentioned a woman friend that you wanted to introduce her to.

H if you could kindly tell me a little more about her I would appreciate that. You know me, I just want to know of anyone that D might be spending time with or meeting.

Thanks so much. Look forward to seeing you on Sunday.

[Maya44]

I thought it was fine though. I thought it was better than "leave me and D the f alone. You can't see D until you get your head out of your ass either! Why would you tell an 8 year old about a girlfriend but you swear to me there's no one?!" I could've said alot worse though but it's still bad? I just want to leave the area and go without contact for a few days. I feel very worthless.

[Maya44]

Oh no, GG! He does know me and knows I will NOT have D meeting anyone at all and KNOWS I wouldn't be so kind to know about an OW!