He is still mad! And it is still a trap! He's mad that you didn't take the bait! Keep it up! If he wants to keep D for the evening, have a glass of wine, or two, read a book, watch a movie, and just relax! Turn it into a good thing!
Yes think of it as a night to yourself to pamper you!! Don't argue with him....he's probably trying to figure our right now why you are not yelling at him yet!!!
Hey Jeff...yes it is a trap and I'm not falling for it. If he wants to punish me or whatever it's not going to work. I told him I was going out and what time I'd be home and was sticking to that plan. Not my problem he got pissy
I will have a shower and either watch one of my favourite movies (The Shawshank Redemption) or read the Nora Roberts book I've been working through.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Hi Sep.! In the past I would be asking him what the he!! his problem was but not today.
My coach said that a lot of what are problems in our R are bad habits and that was actually good because they can be changed into good habits. Habits both good and bad are learned. So now I have a chance to create a new habit (not looking for confrontation). Once I make the change he will see it and decide to act accordingly.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I think that I'm going to really benefit from these sessions. I have another one for next Friday. I'm trying to journal things and then bring the big ones up on Friday. Last nights events are def. going to be brought up!
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Yes I agree that, that episode should be discussed so she can guide you on how to handle something like that should it happen again and hopefully congratulate you for handling your self well. *wink*
Yeah I'll def. bring it up on Friday. I sure hope there's nothing else that pops up before then.
I didn't even ask him what time he'd drop her off tomorrow. All I said about dropping her off on Saturday was "oh, ok. I really wanted to see her" to which he didn't respond (surprise surprise).
So there you have the perfect example of a DAM..."I want you to have friends and let me go but when you do I'm going to be a jerk" agghh
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
That's kind of why I asked if you had custody set up on a schedule Jen. I see too much of an opportunity for it to be thrown in your face when you want to go out. I don't really like the idea that you have to ask for him to watch your D.
I'm not sure how to approach it though without their being issues.
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