Well, I was just talking to W about some changes to our plans when she asked if she could get a whole day this weekend to go to a BBQ (turns out to be with OM#1 and his family.) I of course hesitated and she asked why I had issues with her hanging out with her friends. She told me that she thinks that I'm jumping to conclusions and that's why I don't want to facilitate her spending time with her friends. I told her it wasn't her "friends" in general and she asked it's just him? and I said yes. She immediatly calmed her voice and said that she understood. I told her that perhaps someday we should have a talk about this just not now and changed the subject. We then talked about next week and her upcoming plans to go to vegas next wed. She wants time to run errands before her trip so prob doesn't want the kids on her day Tuesday.
I feel like I have two choices. I can either drop it which of course has it's own consequenses for me in that this would continue because I am too nice a guy. Or, I can try to stop facilitating any social activities she has of any kind because she would in reality just lie if I tried to be selective. I don't think talking to her would do any good so this time I think I'll not make changes to my plans, not let her off a day and let her figure it out on her own if she can go to the BBQ.
I'm not ok with facilitating her going to "hang" with OM or his family.
After my last post I was really starting to have a good day too and then while I'm writing I just got some bad work news. Sigh, when it rains it pours.
Me:34 W:31 d's 5 & 10 M: 5 years, T: 8, Bomb1 3/8/08,#2:3/28/08 Asked 4 D:4/19/08, discovered PA 5/8/08,W moved out 6/30/08 W pregnant by OM: 2/17/08
