\:\) I meant that your comment makes sense as to why she might prefer to keep your marriage "private": being open about your R provides opportunities for outsiders to see and judge her mistreatments of you. It might not be a conscious thing...but maybe somehow she gets that she's not supportive or considerate of you in many ways, but doesn't want others to see her that way.

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