Update? Hmmm...nada new. H has been crazy busy with a new mechanical project (he bought a nearly new wrecked pickup for an insanely small amount of money and is fixing it) and a few work projects, so he's not around much. When he is home (before 9 am and after 10 pm), he's pleasant, engaged, even thoughtful on occasion.

I feel like we're pretty much back to our pre-A life, but better in some ways. Nothing's worse. Some things I'd like to see improve:

-I'd like to be a better, more positive parenting team (with more presence and involvement from him). I'm currently working on responding to my kids in positive ways using natural consequences. I mess up about every 20 minutes or so ;\) , but it's on my radar.
-I'd like to spend more time together (think I need to get a sitter and head over to the shop to hang out with him if that's going to happen).
-I'd like to be on the same page spiritually (this one's up to him--and I'm okay with that for now).

For me, I need to work on my tone of voice--I think that sometimes I come across as whiny. Not intentionally, it's just the tone that comes out when I'm expressing frustration or fear. And, call me crazy, I think he's quick to hear it. Now that I think of it, maybe that's why my D6 is so whiny too! Grrr.

Me-36
H-36
3 young children
Married-14y