Ok sure I can drop it. Can't say I'm angry...more like hurt. But still that's negative. But yes it's his perception, his truth. Just because it doesn't comply with my truth doesn't make him wrong.
When he was here I acted as if everything was hunky dory
Jen's doing fine!
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
The Secret is mostly about thinking and being positive so that good things come your way. It's like anything; if you think it can help it will. But yes it does depend on where you put your faith.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Well I believe in the power of positive thinking. I also believe that like attracts like. If you are happy, you are more attractive.
Case in point, my XH and I had a violatile M to say the least, and separated a few times. the S's were initiated by me. After a few months, he would get his life together, and be doing well, and I would look at realize he was attractive to me again. Then we would reconcile, and he would turn back into the slob he always was.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Hurt means you still had expectations. I know its hard to emotionally detach, I can feel it going on in me and it's unsettling. It also empowers you. I just act lke my W is a acquaintance (that I want to get in bed) - Im positive, interested, charming, if I know Im going to see her I dress up, but no expectations. That keeps me off the rollercoaster. Im trying to get to the friends stage but still a lot of anger towards me. In the meantime Im just bettering myself and waiting for a little window to open up to make a love deposit. Im a people pleaser also. But that's not good for relationships so I am working on that. Plus it ends up frustrating me/you. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Yes the hurt isn't good. Last night the expectation I had was to have a good time and to arrive home with D in bed and XH waiting so he could go home. Nothing more. Then I get an angry text and poof!
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
