Hurt means you still had expectations. I know its hard to emotionally detach, I can feel it going on in me and it's unsettling. It also empowers you. I just act lke my W is a acquaintance (that I want to get in bed) - Im positive, interested, charming, if I know Im going to see her I dress up, but no expectations. That keeps me off the rollercoaster. Im trying to get to the friends stage but still a lot of anger towards me. In the meantime Im just bettering myself and waiting for a little window to open up to make a love deposit. Im a people pleaser also. But that's not good for relationships so I am working on that. Plus it ends up frustrating me/you. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
