I have read a lot of your posts and I have to agree with Amy.
I hate to Hijack and I feel as though I am but Amy I was wondering if you could pop in on my thread in piecing and give me a swift kick in the A$$ or at least some insite, as im'e just to tired to think anymore.
Frank, everyone take care. Frank Amy knows iv'e read a lot of her posts but, Im'e sure you know that.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Saying 'thanks but no thanks' would be a step towards helping her hold onto what little legitimate dignity she actually has and while doing so now might hurt her and cause backlash it won't be near the backlash that letting her come over to clean is likely going to cause you down the road.
I'll make sure the house stays clean so she doesn't have to ask again.
I was under the impression that she is realizing how much I've taken on, and that she's wrong to expect that of me. Seems like a step in a positive direction.
But, she does need to realize she can't do 'favors' for me any more. When she starts crying is when I have to be more resolved.
I think that would have been an incredibly tough one for ANYONE posting on here.
I can't think of many who would have turned away a spouse that they love who pleaded, complete with tears, for the opportunity to come over and do some cleaning to make the kids happy with them.
So don't be too hard on yourself.
You'll get stronger as this goes on.
That being said, all your friends here are right. Your wife NEEDS DESPERATELY to feel the disconnect down to her core. Find a way to at least slowly but surely close the door for now.
Stay strong,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
Hi Frank and everyone. I never really visited your thread before. I was told by SG that I should be "focusing on my own thread" and therefore took it to mean that I couldn't post too much to others. I've gotten stagnant doing that, so I've decide to try and branch out.
It sounds like you've got it together Frank. Good for you. I am astounded at how many people post to the ones who's marriage seems to be getting back on track. It's amazes me that as soon as my own went downhill, so did my posters. What's up with that? I'm hurting here. Do I sound like I'm crying? Well, I guess I am, inside anyway. I'm at work and can't really, REALLY cry.
Bworl, I want to thank you for your words of wisdom to me. I have been keeping as dark as possible. Would you like to take a chance on me, and visit me to see WTF is going on with my husband? Funny, I feel like I'm starting to sound bitter. God, I don't want to get bitter.
Well she came an hour late, cleaned for about an hour and then told me she was sorry she couldn't do as much as she wanted and would I make sure the girls clean their rooms. Said she might be able to come by tomorrow and finish. Then she left.
