Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #12

[missmyfriend]

Ima, my W admitted to our C back when she was about to leave that she does build up walls as her coping mechanism. Our C said that it is understandable to take that tact but it has long standing negative repercussions, preventing serious limitations on emotional growth and relationships. She said that she knows that (and she does because that is a common problem area that is discussed in psychology and counseling degrees) but it works for her.

I believe her walls have become so tall that she has created emotional breaks within herself that cause her recall to be sketchy. I think her walls start to fall and she recalls things that are painful so she starts to rebuild them again, hiding once again, forgetting the past. She refuses to deal with her issues.

This is not my theory or guess work. She has shared this with me during our years together. I assumed incorrectly that since she shared this with me, that she was dealing with her issues by trusting me. My mistake.

Remember when I shared with you when my W broke up with me after a little more than a year of dating? She had just started her sophomore year in college and started her concentration in her core subject: Psychology. Not that all was a bed of roses after we got back together again or during our marriage but she was close to the children and with me until she started her masters program 1 1/2 years before she left. I have no idea whether it is related or not. This may be me applying false logic.

I will agree that her leaving that profession will, at least, be good for her. I truly want her to be happy.

Have a great weekend!