I detach/ distance myself by doing things on my own and H comes running wanting to spend a more quality time with me.(my LL)Shows more affection than usual. Then I think that maybe he is coming out of his fog and that the changes will be permanent and feel that we are getting closer by all of these things and after a week or so they go right back the way they were.
The difference this time is that I told him that I needed to decide what I was going to do for me after confonting about OW and the card he sent wich was a boundry he broke. He finally admitted that he knew that she was just there when he needed someone to talk to and that it's not real. He also broke down in tears about us having to work all of the time. That was the first time since this whole thing started that he has even shed a tear about anything in all this.
But, now if I let him pull me back in Im'e afraid that it will end up the same but, What if it doesn't givin the fact that he opened up a little?
I need to fgure out a way to change this.
My brain is so fried that I can not think!!!!!
Don't know if these things I wrote help to figure anything out.
JAK
Last edited by jak58; 08/29/0806:38 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
