It is unclear to me if you are just here for support, or advice, or just to vent...
So I will just ask you as I don't think you have directly stated it above but....do you WANT to recover your marriage or do you want to let it go and possibly end up divorced?
Either way, we're here for you but I am unsure which it is.
DQ
I am not entirely sure now, to be honest about it. For the first 4-6 years I really wanted to recover it. And I did all that I could toward that end. At this point, I'd still like to recover it, for us both to be happy in it, but that's the key. Both of us happy. Short of that, I'd rather end the misery. It's going to take a lot of time, and effort, and work. I steadily hear from my wife that she just wants to gut this out, and get by. That she'll do what she has to for the sake of the kids, but that does not mean reading a book, counseling, etc. That just means she'll suffer through it for their sake, and I don't want to "just get by." If that's the goal, then we're finished already, and I'd just as soon end it.
Good question, and I needed to see my answer in print.
