Saying 'thanks but no thanks' would be a step towards helping her hold onto what little legitimate dignity she actually has and while doing so now might hurt her and cause backlash it won't be near the backlash that letting her come over to clean is likely going to cause you down the road.
I'll make sure the house stays clean so she doesn't have to ask again.
I was under the impression that she is realizing how much I've taken on, and that she's wrong to expect that of me. Seems like a step in a positive direction.
But, she does need to realize she can't do 'favors' for me any more. When she starts crying is when I have to be more resolved.
