Sometimes the whole passive aggressive approach can be SO much fun... muhahahahahaha
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
So I finally have a night to myself. It's a funny thing, when this first happens to you, all you want is them home, then when they're here all the time, you realize how *use* to your own space you gotten. At least I have anyway. D is at a volleyball game and won't be home for another hour or so. It is quiet in my house and I'm letting the silence soak in.
About the weekend - All in all, it was a good time. The MIL was a major pain the a$$. She was already at the campground when we got there Fri. afternoon. She was sitting in BIL's RV, completely ignored me, my daughter AND her son. She ignored all of us the entire evening. My SIL, who can't stand MIL, and MIL who can't stand SIL, were all of a sudden BFF. SIL was a pain to everyone too, trying to accomodate MIL. Water on a ducks back. I get along great with my FIL and his wife. So we had our own good time. My H played bartender and the rested of us did our own thing.
After dinner my D asked H and I if she could go back into town for the civil war football game and then come straight back to camp. We agreed. (she's a great kid and a good driver) My D is so sweet, she invited her step-cousin (SIL's kid,not BIL's)to go the game with her. She's only 14, a B**CH, had not been nice to my D all evening, and still my D did the polite thing. H and I were both proud of her. C did end up going and they had a good time, and she ended up being a *bit* friendlier (not much) over the rest of the weekend. Anyway, when MIL hears D asking C to go, she jumps up and runs to the RV telling C loudly, "Here, let me give you money to go. You need some fun money." MIL has always complained to us about C, MIL never gives any of the kids money. EVER. She made a huge production out of it. Not once did she offer anything to my D. Not that she would have taken it, but it still stung a little.
While D was waiting for C, we were in FIL's RV and I told her I was sorry for how MIL was acting. She told me not to worry about, it wasn't a big deal. Such a smart kid, she say's ( I can't remember exactly, but it was along these lines) "Mom, she knows she can't get in btwn BIL/SIL, she saw a chance to get at least one boy to herself and took it. Now she's mad because it didn't work. It's not worth it to care about what she's thinking" and she hugged me.
I also won the bet on how long she would stay. She was supposed to go home Sat afternoon and I told everyone that I bet she spent the night again. Guess what?? She didn't leave until the middle of the afternoon on Sunday. I had ran into town. Coming back into camp, I saw H & BIL walk with MIL over to the day use area. If I could have danced in the car I would have! Only FIL and D were at camp and FIL was sleeping. D said the MIL did come over and try to hug her goodbye. She let her but didn't hug back. They were saying "goodbyes" for over an hour. H told me later that MIL confronted him about bringing D & I. Basically she was upset that he'd blindsided her andt that they need better communication, he needs to tell her what's going on in his life etc. Well H has told her we were working on things, she told him if we got back together she'd throw a hissy fit (and yes those were the words she used) so he quit mentioning it to her.
FIL woke up from nap before they got back and did his own loud whoop to her leaving. She just makes everyone uncomfortable, and uneasy.
On Fri night H snapped at me when we were in bed over something stupid. Basically he was stressed out over his mom and our dog hurt her leg that afternoon (torn ACL). He wasn't nice, I rolled away to go to sleep and chose to ignore it until morning, he 1/2 tried to fix it, but wasn't in the right mood to either. Well, I woke up Sat morning, to him pulling my earplugs out (Hey, camping on the dunes with atv's going most of the night) and rolling me over with a completely sincere apology. That was a first. It was really nice.
Ohhh...example of controlling MIL behavior. This will all make you just roll your eyes. So BIL had a really bad migraine when we got to camp Fri. He'd taken a couple of percoset and a couple of flexerall and had drank a couple beers. My H made him a long island ice tea. This guy is in no condition to go anywhere. My Step-MIL finally asks my MIL about 9 pm how long she's staying at camp. She says "Oh I don't know, BIL & SIL are driving me to my motel." Now, BIL is passed out in a lounger at the fire and has been for a couple hours. SIL is who knows where, FIL is in bed and it's just the 4 of us and MIL is not participating in our convo. MIL's motel room is at most 1 1/2 miles from our camp. (being generous) It is literally a straight shot. It's the first business you come to when leaving camp. She claims she can't drive at night. Well, she drives 2x a week, 40 miles home, after dark from her chosen church!!! I went to the bathrooms and when I came back they were gone. I don't know who drove her home, but neither of them should have been driving and if BIL got pulled over, he'd lose his job, he's a fireman. H and I were disgusted, but figured it wasn't our problem.
Sooooo....other than that, we/I had a good time. Played lots of games with FIL/SMIL. Went for a(uno)ride in the dunes, cooked lots of good food, had good conversation with Step-SIL and her GF who came by Sat afternoon. Played with their 2 kids, went for a couple small walks/hikes with H. I love to camp and hated for Monday to come. (especially since mil had gone)
GF - I found a really really big stick for you - but BIL found where I hid it and put it on the fire our last night.
Oh, last night H and I went for a drive north after work and he bought himself his own sandrail so now we can do our own toodling around. It was really really cheap, it is a project for him to work on that will not involve pouring anymore cement at my house (or some other costly project). He needs projects to keep him busy. He was very appreciative that I didn't give him a hard time about buying it. ($1800 is a lot cheaper than the last keep him busy project, I was thrilled with the bargain!!!)
Ok, this is way too long. I need to refill my glass now.
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