You sound so good. So positive and happy. Good for you. I know it is hard knowing that you had to make the difficult decision to file and then go through with it. I struggle with that myself....
I find myself comparing the guy I have been on 2 dates with to my xh only in a positive way. "Xh would have NEVER asked me about that!" "Wow this guy has a job and has NO debt?" Stuff like that.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Sounds like the weekend was really nice - good to hear!
I, too, know what you mean by making comparisons. I did the same thing when I was dating while H and I were still S'ed. I used to sometimes think to myself, "Now THIS is what a R is supposed to be like. Mutual respect and honest, open communication. Listening, validating, and caring."
Anyway, probably not the best thing to do, but hey, it happens, so it's ok.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Hey Girls. Well....sadly my comparisons weren't for the better
On a lot of things I see this new guy as better...responsible, hardworking, social...etc. BUT...when it comes to...ummm....intimacy...totally different ballpark . XH and I were just so good together. He knew exactly how to take care of me in that department. OMG, we didn't have anything missing there....and when we were piecing things seemed to be exceptionally good. I just don't know that I will ever connect with someone like that again.
I have been having this feeling lately that this is all going to hit xh soon. He tends to make knee jerk decisions and then when it doesn't drastically change his life he regrets it. Not sure why, but I just have a feeling it is coming.
Ok, more problems than xh right now (although I am trying to look on the bright side). We have been hearing about "cost reductions" at work this week....i.e. layoffs. I have been pretty worried because I am the low man on the totem pole so to speak as I was the next to the last engineer hired here.
I could barely sleep last night. There are no other engineering jobs around here so if I lose this one, I have to move...no question about it. I like being home but I probably never would have moved back here if it wasn't for the D because there are so few career opportunities. I needed to be around family though.
My boss just came in my office to forewarn me about the meeting we are about to have. The good news is that I am not losing my job. Yay! The bad news is that everybody is getting a pay cut across the board. From the executives down. It will be a couple of hundered dollars off my biweekly paycheck. The silver lining I can see is that my house couldn't have sold a moment sooner. I may not have been able to swing this if I still had the house.
My boss did say that if/when business picks back up then our salaries will return to normal. Trying to look on the bright side here...but a paycut is no fun!
I do get to leave early today! TGIF!
In even better news I haven't thought too much about xh lately. NC is the way to go for me. I am so ready for the weekend. Football tomorrow!!!! Roll Tide!
The pay cut sucks, but at least I still have a job. Yesterday I was in a panic and was trying to see if I would be able to make it on unemployment until I find a job. Alabama is one of the lowest...if not THE lowest state for unemployment.
My boss seems to think this is temporary...maybe until the end of the year or so. It won't be on our paycheck next Friday, but it will start after that. Frustrating but relieving at the same time. It could be worse.
. XH and I were just so good together. He knew exactly how to take care of me in that department. OMG, we didn't have anything missing there....and when we were piecing things seemed to be exceptionally good. I just don't know that I will ever connect with someone like that again.
