NA, Yea, I pray for the same. And I also can tell that he knows that it is destructive for him and for us. He says things all the time, that make me realize that he doesnt like his own choices, but he is addicted and also says often "I just dont know how to stop, I dont know why I cant stop". He says he never plans on going to a bar to drink more than just one or two and get dinner. But he always ends up staying for more. All I can do is to pray. I cant push him to go to AA meetings. And I know that he is doing it becuase he isnt ready to stop - he finds it fun.
Unfortunately my H still needs to hit a rock bottom before he will ever change.
I love your letter idea. It is a great piece of advice. However, I just dont think it is the right time yet. If I say to him (even in writing) how I really feel about his lifestyle - he will just run again. However, I do think I could use a letter format down the road, if things continue to be bad or to get worse - I know I will have to say something instead of just living with it.
My H continues to drink and drive despite the 3 warnings. I cant believe he wont learn from this last experience becuase he seemed really sincere about knowing he has a problem the day after it happened. TIPPER
