Divorce was final today

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Nugget - I would like you to elaborate on your experience with detaching. My thread is in newbies - soon to move here, unfortunately. H is heading for D like a freightrain. I don't want it. I have been trying to be his friend in all this and now he tells me that I don't need to know anything about his life. That he can't be my friend because it may come back to bite him in the a$$. Problem is...we have a newborn baby girl. The short of it - H and I were doing fertility treatment, H started an affair, a week into his affair I was pregnant, H moved out and in with OW and her 2 kids after 3 weeks of knowing her. We continued to be intimate on and off and we were friends. Since our daughter was born, everything has gone downhill. I NEED to detach - it is hurting me and my R with him. I'm afraid of detaching. Please let me know what worked for you and how you finally did it.