Thank you - but please let it go. This has been going on for years and in the past I defended myself. This time I didn't b/c really there was no point.
I have never shared the reasons that led to the animosity between myself and some of the senior posters with you or anyone else I keep in touch with off the BB b/c I didn't think it was relevant. And I tend to address issues with a person -with that person. I am not into talking about people behind their backs.
I never imagined deciding not to respond to offers of friendship would lead to such animosity. I backed off b/c sometimes people act like friends in public and say very mean things about each other behind their backs. Sometimes it was sister talking about sister. Sometimes it was jealousy b/c one Db'er had hooked up with someone they wanted. Sometimes it was one Db'er slamming another Db'er's approach.
I am just not use to that so I backed off. I tend to be a - you see exactly where you stand with me kind of person. I have copies of all of these emails and will forward them to you. It is my work computer - so out of habit I never delete anything.
The people I decided to keep in touch with are not like that. And while I do not advertise who I keep in touch with - there are several people from the BB. I do not keep in touch with people to win popularity contests or form alliances.
Anyway my negative experiences is why I support the DB BB no contact policy.
You and I have very different approaches to managing conflict compared to sg. That being said, she is the moderator which makes her the boss. She gets to call the shots here. Whether we like it or not - we should follow her instructions.
Perhaps all is as it should be - this vacation is a milestone in many ways.
Also thank you for noticing when several of my threads disappeared and reappeared and the powers that be acted "as if" it was all in my imagination and was overreacting. I received several emails that day from fellow DB'ers. That alone should tell you that any argument is a waste of time and energy.
Take care my friend. You have been my role model and mentor for years. Thank you.
